Self Care T​ips:

In the end, it’s about treating our tender hearts with care. If we really, truly show up for them, they will serve us abundantly in return.

1. Honor your feelings.

There’s no getting around it. If you don’t let them through, you probably walk around feeling off. When you finally get to have that good cry, or that honest conversation, it’s a relief. It turns out we are designed to constantly cleanse our psyches by allowing our emotions to move through us. Furthermore, when we delay, ignore, or stuff down our feelings, we suffer with physical symptoms. Our anger and our fear are here to protect us. Let’s learn to let them do their job.

2. Become humble.

Humility means you don’t actually need to be perfect, nor do you need to be right. In fact, you don’t have to be anything other than just good old you, as you are, right here and right now. Humility also means everyone else gets to be the equally flawed creatures they are, because basically we’re all in this together.

3. Know and express your boundaries.

The key is to honor our emotions and then find the courage to speak up kindly. Requests work well here. If you feel shy verbalizing your boundaries, keep this in mind: most people appreciate it when you're clear with them. Then they don’t have to awkwardly wonder, guess, and try to accommodate you somehow. They can show up in a way that is helpful and respectful. 

4. Remember forgiveness sets you free.

That sticky pile of resentments you’ve carried around most of your life? Turns out they’re a massive energy suck, mainly because they contain a piece of you that’s also waiting to be forgiven. Conflicts are never one-sided. It takes two people to make a snit. But once you forgive myself and the other person, your heart can relax and your soul can breathe freely again.

5. Be patient with yourself.               

We are all works in progress until the day we die. But then, isn’t that the point of life? To learn, evolve and grow? That means I probably won’t get it right the first time, or maybe even the 50th, nor may you. But we might just nail it the 51st time.